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5 so that moms are ashamed to talk to their daughters. But we have to

'21.12.2018'

Source: Pink RBC

It seems that teenagers and so everyone knows. And if they do not know, they will ask. No, they won't. Climb to the Internet, go to friends, solve the problem on their own. Parents are likely to be the last to go. Therefore, it is better to talk with them.

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In adolescence for girls, it is important to have trustful communication with the mother, in which you can discuss any issues, reminds Pink RBC. Why does the body change? What will happen next? What hygiene products to use? How to choose the first bra? What if someone behaves incorrectly? The publishing house MYTH published a book for teenage girls “Your personal body”. In her 50 topics that are worth discussing with her daughter. Here are five of them.

Body changes

Someone shy of changing proportions, someone is proud and asks to quickly buy a first bra. The correct attitude to the chest is formed through direct conversations about the body. Mom should tell her daughter what to expect. In the process of growth, the breast can ache, itch, “burn” - and this should not be frightened. Feelings can be very unusual, but this does not mean that you can not touch the chest. Some things - jumping, running - will make it harder, but a good bra will help. Detailed pronouncement of such things will help to accept changes in the body more easily.

Adult women, many things seem natural. For example, that bra straps can be adjusted. Or that wearing lacy underwear every day is not very convenient. Moms need to devote their daughters to all these subtleties.

What you tell your daughters now will stay with them for life. Be sure to explain to girls that any seals, lumps in the chest area in any case can not be hidden. Breast cancer is a frequent disease, unfortunately. Such a conversation could save lives in the future.

 

Hygiene products

Most often, schoolgirls learn about pads (how to wear them, which ones to choose) from girlfriends and from advertising. Not the most reliable sources of information. It is important that the girl had a gasket on hand when her first menstruation comes.

If the mother does not take care of this, the first cycle may catch the girl at the most inopportune moment.

In a frank conversation, tell your daughter what to do if there is still no gasket (ask your friends for a last resort - roll up toilet paper). The girl will be useful to know that in addition to the pads, there are also tampons, menstrual cups. Maybe these hygiene products will be more convenient for her.

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How girls differ from boys

The device of the genital organs need to know not only doctors. It is necessary to know everything to understand yourself, your body. This topic seems unethical to many parents, so they avoid it in every possible way. As a result, children do not know anything about physiology. Sometimes they climb the Internet and get inaccurate information. For example, that you can protect yourself from an unwanted pregnancy with the help of an interrupted sexual intercourse.

Let this information be useful not now, but in the future, but then the girl will know exactly how everything works, and will not succumb to false persuasion.

Growing up, girls are showing an increasing interest in the intimate zone. They doubt if everything is right there. Develop doubts and tell how things really are. You can use a schematic drawing. Say that, despite the same overall device, there are no standards of "beauty" and the body may look different.

Hair

Remember, there was a fashion for eyebrow-strings? It looked weird, right? Then, under the influence of fashion, many adolescents plucked out almost all the eyebrows. Now in fashion to completely get rid of hair "there." But who knows what will happen in 10 – 15 years?

It is important for mother to convey to her daughter that her hair is natural and you should not get rid of them only under the influence of fashion (your own conscious desire is another matter). The same goes for other body hair.

Remember how much endless epilations you had to go through before you found your ideal version. By sharing your experience, you will save your daughter from unnecessary pain, because the same method of hair removal might work for you.

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How important it is not to be silent

The author of the book “Your Personal Body,” Marava Ibrahim, tells how once, an eight-year-old girl, was pinched by some guy behind her ass. Mom stood by and noticed nothing. Marava didn’t say anything and for 20 for years she remembered that incident and dreamed of hitting this guy. Each of us has something to tell about this topic. And most of us were silent in similar situations. Marava cited the example of a harmless situation (although the impression from this was so strong that it has not been forgotten until now).

And what if there is more serious harassment? Children are silent, because they are afraid and do not know that this is an abnormal situation. They think that mom will scold the wrong guy who pinched for the ass, and the girl herself. For the fact that "she asked for it herself."

Stupidity, right? Explain to your daughter why it is important not to be silent and with what situations you cannot put up. Tell us what to do if someone sticks. And most importantly - convince the child that you will always be on his side.

You are a mother, and only you can prompt, protect, direct. Talk with girls on different topics and leave the constraint behind the door of the room where your conversation will take place. Long, honest and open.

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