5 reasons why you are no longer happy with the winter holidays
'01.01.2020'
Source: Jana delphi
It would seem that New Year and Christmas are a time of sheer miracles and magic, but, alas, this is far from the case for everyone. Festive music and illumination, good old films on TV, tangerines and Christmas trees ... But that’s not all: working at a frantic pace before the New Year holidays, family disputes and quarrels, excess food and alcohol, short sunny days and cold outside. Is it such a wonderful time, New Year and Christmas? Reasoning Jana delphi.
If a person is single or not too happy, it can be very difficult for him to observe endless examples of a successful and happy life in other families, which are teeming with television screens and social networks. It is especially difficult at this time for those who are experiencing family difficulties, losses, divorces and separation, loneliness and illness.
The state of loss of strength and low mood during the holidays has reasons, and this is good news: we can fight with what we understand. Let's look at the most common causes of New Year's depression and ways to deal with them.
1. Unjustified expectations
Flawless holidays: a Christmas tree shining with lights, white snow outside the window, bright boxes with gifts, fun and well-being. If you were looking forward to exactly this, it is not surprising that now you are sad.
According to psychiatrists, to whom holidays add work, most people fail with fantasies about the perfect New Year, which they cherish and which actively supports cinema and television. In fact, the New Year's Eve and the celebration of Christmas are never perfect, and many are upset. As a result, family discord becomes more frequent - precisely during the holidays.
That is why it is so important to control both your expectations and your annoyance when expectations are not met, especially when it comes to family members. If you know that at this time your family and friends tend to squabble for any reason, do not demand spiritual unity from them - it will only bring you disappointment.
It’s better to concentrate on the fact that the truth went well, for example, an uncle who is starting a quarrel during the New Year feast this time went on a business trip and everything went more or less peacefully. If nothing went well, take comfort in the thought that “New Year is a fresh start,” and the holidays are about to end.
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2. Excessive efforts
It is closely connected with the first reason: in order to meet our bright expectations, we are trying too hard to catch everything. We plan the perfect vacation, prepare gifts for everyone, visit relatives, agree to all the invitations, rush for rags to finish things at work ... Such super-humans can withstand such a regime. The fate of a normal person, especially the mother of a large family: fatigue, lack of sleep, reduced mood background against the background of continuous stress, to which we subject ourselves.
Perfectionism, sometimes useful, once again plays a trick on its adherents. Fear of “not being in time" turns into guilt when it comes true. If this is about you, try to convince yourself: everything is in order, just the burden that you put on yourself is beyond anyone's strength.
3. Comparisons are not in our favor
Do not compare yourself with others! The stupidest advice, because it is impossible to resist. And on New Year's Eve, exemplary happiness reigns in cinema and social networks. People lead an active lifestyle, shine with smiles, grab success, and our family is imperfect and with a runny nose. Involuntarily, you will feel flawed.
If this is the source of your holiday sadness, remember the old joke. An old man comes to the doctor: “Doctor, my 70-year-old neighbor says he can with his wife three times a night.” “Well, you say,” the doctor replies.
All families have difficulties, sorrows and reasons for discontent. The picture that people present to the world has little to do with reality. The ideal New Year, as we recall from childhood, remained in childhood, and all these images are just an attempt to imitate the past happiness.
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4. Unhealthy Lifestyle
While everything goes as it should, routine keeps us in an optimal mood. Scheduled meals, yoga-pilates-pool, business time, fun hour - all this contributes not only to physical, but also to moral health. And all this useful routine flies to hell during the winter holidays. We overeat, drink excessively, sleep too little, then too much, and all this is destructively reflected in the mood.
So it is entirely possible that this is the reason for your sadness. If you suspect that it is, stop transmitting, reduce alcohol and return to normal, including sports. It is especially important to avoid alcohol: people make mistakes when they think that it cheers up. Alcohol only strengthens the current emotional state, and if you are depressed, its symptoms will intensify too.
5. Seasonal disorder
If your mood steadily tends to go down in December, it does not improve after the holidays, and such rubbish is from year to year, you may have seasonal affective disorder.
Many people who suffer from it believe that the above reasons are to blame, and this may be due to a seasonal decrease in mood: then the cause of depression is a lack of light and heat. So check yourself: if depression, as on a calendar, comes to you in the winter, and never at another time - maybe there is nothing to do with the holidays, and it would be nice to talk to the doctor.
