12 habits that betray a person with a poor childhood
'09.07.2020'
Source: ADME
Poverty is passed down from generation to generation. And this is not about inheritance at all. The way of thinking, which is established from a very early age, leads to the fact that a person is not able to manage his finances and does not risk earning more than a certain amount, writes ADME.
So what habits indicate a poor childhood and accompany us all our lives. And as a bonus to the article - an unusual study of Canadian scientists.
- Total savings on everything
Total savings on clothing, food, health and utilities are not due to the fact that the costs are large, but because the income is small. People who in childhood felt a lack of finance count every penny and live from paycheck to paycheck. Instead of analyzing their capabilities and finding a way to increase income, they rush from one extreme to another, saving on their comfort and health.
- All the best for children
People who did not have something in childhood often indulge their children and buy them expensive clothes, fashionable gadgets and extra toys. Do not render the younger generation a disservice, trying to please them in every way. Children who effortlessly received everything they wanted rarely get their own career heights.
- Exaggeration of income
People who exaggerate their income are afraid to seem low-income and unclaimed in society. It is a shame to be poor. Such individuals do not take this widespread form of lies seriously and continue to invent fables about their dividends day after day.
- Doubtful renovation in the apartment
Repair takes a lot of effort, time and finance. Many are trying to save on just about everything, but there’s nothing to say about the services of an interior designer. The attitude of people towards this profession is somewhat biased, and many are sincerely perplexed: why spend money if you can do everything yourself? As a result, apartments in the style of “return my 2000th”.
It is not necessary to hire a famous designer with a fabulous price tag. Consider novice professionals who work on a portfolio and charge a nominal fee. They will help to correctly plan the space in your apartment, pick up the actual options for decoration and pay attention to other nuances.
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- Incorrect parent settings
People who grew up in a poor family, without noticing it, broadcast their wrong values in life to their children. This includes expressions from the category “nothing depends on us”, “all the rich earn dishonestly”, “happiness is not in money”, etc. They first lower their bar, and then they teach their offspring that much in life just impossible no matter how hard you try.
Do not forget that such incorrect attitudes are eaten into the subconscious of the younger generation, thereby increasing the risk of repeating the financial past of their parents.
- Junk in the apartment
The habit of storing trash is quite common among people with a financially poor past. Throwing one thing or another thing in the bin is tantamount to disaster. Torn T-shirt or old towel - great rags for wiping dust and floor; a glass of yogurt must be washed - it’s still useful; plastic bags - wash and dry. They are afraid to throw something away or give it away, because in their opinion, a new one may not appear.
The clutter of the house betrays his master's subconscious thoughts that he will not be able, will not cope, will never improve his financial situation, but will live in anticipation of a rainy day.
- Hand shopping - taboo
People who grow up in conditions of limited financial resources are embarrassed by their problems with money. They do not want to recognize themselves as low-income, therefore buying from their hands, dressing in second-hand clothes, and using second-hand goods is considered to be something shameful and humiliating for them.
All this leads to the fact that such people are actively trying to jump above their heads to buy expensive goods "like everyone else" (mobile phone, equipment, clothes), get into debt, loans and dig deeper and deeper into the financial hole.
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- Remorse for spontaneous purchases
Instead of rejoicing at the new thing, people who are deprived of something in their childhood begin to feel guilty and reproach themselves for the money spent. In their opinion, succumbing to momentary weakness, they went about their irrational desires, instead of acquiring something for the home, family, and children. They put the needs of other people above their own, and this is fundamentally wrong and in adulthood can play a cruel joke with them.
There is nothing shameful in sometimes buying something just for your pleasure.
- Inability to refuse
The reasons for this lie in low self-esteem, fear of rejection, fear of being a bad or uncomfortable person. Children who do not know how to refuse and do not have their own opinions easily follow the lead of others. For them, the risk of getting into a bad company, acquiring bad habits, or even breaking the law is many times greater.
- Stable low-wage work
People who did not live well in childhood are not prone to change and risk. They are busy solving current problems, and goals are substituted for dreams. After all, something is always scary to change, and even more so to leave the place you live. “A titmouse in hands is better than a crane in the sky” - this is their motto in life.
We are taught from childhood that they do not become rich, but are born. And one must obey all the vicissitudes of fate, and not challenge her. Stability is what matters. Only for some reason on Sunday evening we are annoyed by the thought that tomorrow again to work.
- Worn items in the wardrobe
People with limited finances in their childhood carefully store worn bras, faded T-shirts, washed bathrobes and underpants with children's drawings in the closet. Pathological frugality, experts say, is in the blood of many. Because of their poverty and fear of being left with nothing, they are ready to wear the same things for years.
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- Addiction to depression
According to studies, people who have felt a need for money since childhood have higher levels of cortisol (the hormone of stress) than people who haven’t had a lack of finances. That is why such people in adulthood are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety and mental disorders.
Bonus: did you know that you can distinguish between rich and poor by face?
Canadian scientists conducted an unusual study and found that the human brain is able to determine financial position solely by expression and facial features.
160 participants in the experiment were divided into 2 groups depending on the level of income and photographed with the most neutral facial expression. A group of students were asked to look at the photographs and determine who belong to the rich and who belong to the poor. The organizers did not provide other information to them.
The results surprised even the scientists themselves. Those who viewed the photos correctly identified social status in 53% of cases, and this, according to researchers, eliminates the possibility of accidental guessing.
