Body language signals that may indicate a cheating partner
'17.03.2021'
Source: Cluber
If you suddenly begin to wonder if your partner does not change you, it is quite possible - this is no accident. Most likely, something is alarming you in his behavior, gestures, but you cannot explain to yourself what. This is confirmed by a psychologist, expert in body language, Patti Wood.
What kind of language is this? Body language is the symbolic elements of the poses and movements of various parts of the body, through which thoughts, feelings and emotions are conveyed, consciously or unconsciously, writes Cluber.
And, as Patti Wood emphasizes, these signals should not be underestimated, because they can warn you of impending danger. The psychologist says:
“At first, you cannot even convey with words what is alarming and what is wrong, but in reality you are simply catching thousands of non-verbal signals that indicate something is happening to your partner. In this case, your brain "responds" to these signals in a peculiar way - on the physical level. You may experience nausea, tension, or stress. Do not ignore these symptoms. Because really something is happening. "
But how can you determine what is being changed? Scientists at Princeton University argue that the most loyal assistant in this is to pay attention to the body language of your partners. After all, what they feel is not concealed, and they will surely give themselves away with unusual behavior, facial expressions or gestures.
Wood says that they behave like this because they are constantly on their toes, that they will be revealed, or they feel guilty, deceiving you: a normal person, he will give himself away. "
So, we present you 10 signals of body language, which may indicate that your partner is changing you.
They avoid intimacy and communication.
“If he always openly expressed his feelings, hugged you, and suddenly stopped, as if he“ moved away ”from you, it means that something happens,” - Daniel Goodman.
If you and your partner love each other, and suddenly he starts to push away when you try to hug or somehow show your love, this can be a wake-up signal.
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“You notice that your partner behaves differently than usual,” explains Wood. - For example, if he kissed you all the time, and suddenly stopped doing it. Do not ignore such signals. ”
They suddenly start behaving more courageously and literally fly with happiness.
This can be a non-verbal signal of a kind of bragging.
Your partner suddenly suddenly began to shine with happiness? If you notice how he is brave and almost hovers above the ground, even though he does not notice it himself, this may be a signal to you - “something is wrong here.”
“This is a very telling indicator indeed,” Wood says. "This is their non-verbal way to brag about their 'victory'!"
They smile or laugh when you want to talk seriously.
This may mean that they feel embarrassed and want to get away from the showdown.
If a person avoids a serious conversation, this indicates one thing - he is uncomfortable.
And maybe even more formidable symptom - he is pleased, as you suffer and suffer.
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“If you tell your partner that you feel something is amiss in his behavior, and he smiles in response,” says Wood, “this is an abnormal reaction of a loving person. And if he, at the sight of your sufferings, also rejoices, we are dealing with pathology. Intuitively, you can usually distinguish these two types: when a partner smiles in order to avoid a conversation, and when he does so with special voluptuousness - while enjoying himself while contemplating other people's suffering. The second is a very terrible sign. ”
Naturally, the partner can avoid talking in other ways, and not just smiling and joking back in response. For example, pretend to do something intently. For example, it plays "on the phone" or "reads" an article in a scientific journal. But the essence does not change. If they avoid a serious conversation - something is wrong.
You notice other "cluster signals" (alarming hints)
By itself, one of the "hints" may still mean nothing, but in the complex - this is an alarm signal.
In the journal "Psychology Today" they write that these "cluster signals" are a whole group of different manifestations of "body language" that can express either positive or negative feelings. For example, one of these is when you try to get closer or hug your partner, and he instinctively moves away. Or averts his eyes, folds his arms.
These are all tips for you. Of course, one signal doesn’t say anything, but when there are already about a dozen of them, it’s time to sound the alarm. Partner clearly avoids you, and for good reason.
Changing the "telephone behavior" of your partners
If they suddenly start to “defend with a sword” their phone, this may mean that they are trying to hide something from you.
It’s one thing to have a password on your phone to protect it in case of loss or theft, and quite another to not disclose it to anyone. If you do not meet with a CIA agent, then there’s no need to protect your phone so a person who has nothing to hide from you. Is that he has something to hide ...
If you notice that your partner has unexpectedly set a bunch of passwords on the phone or runs headlong over every call so that you will not see who is calling, this is an alarm signal.
They become more demanding in bed
They seem to be trying to "prove" something in a sexual relationship with you.
There is another way that your partner unconsciously wants to “boast” of its victory on the side in front of you. At the same time, he does it completely unconsciously.
“As a rule, a deceived partner does not note this, but sudden activity and lust is also a kind of manifestation of“ body language, ”says Wood. - When your partner suddenly starts to behave more lustfully and “inventively” in bed, then at first you even rejoice - it means he loves. But stop for a moment and analyze whether there is any hidden implication in this. If, on the 15 year of your relationship, he begins to demand new poses and techniques, this is a sign that he began to feel more confident, but he has acquired this experience clearly not at home. ”
They start to take better care of their appearance.
Sometimes they do it for the sole purpose of “hide their tracks.”
A partner who is cheating on you, on a subconscious level, is trying to do everything so that you don’t guess anything. For this reason, he may take a shower five times after the “work” so that you do not “smell” the smell of someone else's perfume. Or, on the contrary, buy a bunch of new flavors that will be poured from head to toe.
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“If you notice that a partner is paying an unusually large amount of attention to his appearance, and does this clearly not for you, then he is most likely trying so hard for someone else,” warns Wood.
They pat you on the back or kiss your cheek like an old friend.
If your loved one’s gestures become friendly rather than romantic, this is a sign that you may be cheated on.
This can be compared with the fact that you would have written a long and sincere letter to someone, and in response you would receive only “ok”. If you warmly and lovingly hug your partner, and he responds with a careless friendly gesture, as if you are his sister or brother, this may indicate that he is trying to hide something. Especially, emphasizes Wood, if before that he was always gentle and affectionate with you.
They are constantly tense or upset.
When your partner is suddenly upset or depressed, this may indicate that he has something to hide from you.
“If you point out that your partner is in some kind of stressful state in the absence of external factors, this can be a sign of betrayal,” says Wood. - This is manifested in the fact that your usually cheerful and carefree loved one suddenly begins to worry. He bites his nails, drinks too much, or literally unconsciously rushes about ... These are all signs that they want to hide something from you. ”
He really is not easy. The trickster's wear is not so pleasant, because at any moment you can be exposed. They may also feel bad because they do not know how to act, how to continue this double life.
Despite the fact that you are hurt and you are overwhelmed with emotions - do not let their mood affect yours in a negative way.
They avoid looking you in the eye.
This may be a sure sign that you are lying ...
“As a rule, liars do this,” explains Wood. - Of course, if we are not talking about psychopaths who can lie, looking intently into your eyes. We are about normal people who look away and do it on a subconscious level. ”
All the above signs indicate that you and your partner need to sit together and honestly discuss everything. You do not deserve to be cheated and lied to. And to him, I think, this situation is also not entirely pleasant.
Wood advises to choose the right time for such a difficult conversation for both of you. Best of all - when you are calm and in an even mood. “Do not start to sort things out on the platoon,” she warns. “Tell all that you have gathered, but calmly so that your partner does not use your emotions against you.”
First, not the fact that you really change.
And secondly, in the end, everything in the world can be experienced. And treason - as well.
To live together or not together - you can decide and do it calmly.
